Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
Healthy relationships are about:
- Respect: Both people show consideration for each other’s feelings and well-being and can be trusted with information shared in confidence.
- Sharing: Both people are able to confide in one another.
- Caring: Both people show concern for one another.
- Trust: Both people can rely on the other for support and know they will act with each other’s best interest at heart.
- Fun: Both people enjoy spending time together.
- Controlling Your Anger: Disagreeing is normal. Just remember that in healthy relationships people talk things out respectfully without putting each other down.
- Negotiating and Compromising: In healthy relationships, one person shouldn’t always get her or his way — there needs to be a “give and take.” For example, if one person prefers action movies, while the other person prefers comedies, make a deal to watch one type of movie one weekend, and the other type of movie the next weekend.
The other person:
- Is jealous and possessive of their bf/gf's time.
- Bosses their bf/gf around and likes to tell their bf/gf what to do (including what to wear, who to talk to, and where they can go).
- Gets in a lot of fights with people and loses his/her temper a lot.
- Pressures their bf/gf to have sex or to do something sexual before their bf/gf feels ready.
- Tries to change things about their bf/gf.
- Encourages or pressures their bf/gf to do drugs and alcohol.
- Is mean to their bf/gf (e.g. swears at them or puts them down).
- Blames their bf/gf for his or her problems, tells their bf/gf that it is always their fault.
- Texts or IM's their bf/gf constantly. This isn't love — this is control!
- Insults their bf/gf in front of others and says it's “just a joke."
- Is unpredictable — nice to their bf/gf one minute then moody and mean the next.
- Makes their bf/gf feel scared of his/her reaction (causing their bf/gf to feel like they are “walking on egg shells”).
- Wants to know where their bf/gf is at all times.
- Threatens to hurt his/herself, or their bf/gf, if their bf/gf leaves him/her.
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get out of your bad relationships boys and girls..
This is a great site for students to discuss with other anonymous teens
this is weird
There is a gril who rely like's me but I dont like her how do I trun her down without herting her feling's?
just tell her u dont like her that way
that is the best whay
I really like my girlfriend :)
Tell her shes Beautiful and keep her with you <3 :)
awww that's so sweet!
He Always Wanted To Be With Me, And I Liked Him Alot but Soon He started Touching Me In weird Ways. It Was Unhealthy.
omg u should havetold a parent
thaat is a very good thing did you tell him it wasent right and it was unhealthy
Good call - you're right! It is important to pay attention, if you start feeling uncomfortable in a relationship. It may be time to end it. Not all relationships are going to work out. It's better to end it earlier, if isn't working, rather than dragging it out. This is easier and healthier for both people.