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The Real World vs. The Cyber World

Ever notice how some people will text or post things online that they would never say or do in person? What’s up with that? Some people feel like they can say or do anything when communicating through technology even if they don’t really mean it. Whatever you text or post online can easily spill over into your everyday life and cause stress and drama in your relationships.

Making Promises

Sometimes when you’re texting you can get carried away and agree (or even promise!) to do something that you wouldn’t agree to do in real life. Whether it’s making plans to go somewhere you don’t really want to go, agreeing to go out with someone you’re not really into, or making promises to go farther in a relationship then you actually feel comfortable with, it can be really easy to just text a message that you do not intend to follow through with in person.

Even when you are joking around or know you don’t really mean it, the other person might not understand. The truth is the other person might actually think you mean it. Getting someone’s hopes up by making promises that you don’t intend to keep can impact your real life relationships. What you need to remember is that there is no real difference between having a conversation through technology and having one face-to-face. If you don’t want to do something, then don’t text message that you do.

Be honest and truthful with those you are text messaging. If they are true friends, or if it is a healthy relationship, they should always respect your decision.

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Have you ever made a promise in a text message that you didn’t actually want to keep?
girldetective1998 wrote:
April 7, 2011 7:47 am

No, I don't text very often. It may sound like this isn't the norm, but I just don't feel the need to text all the time.

glitterglamormonster wrote:
June 11, 2011 2:26 am

oh girl, we're soooooo the same. i don't like texting actually, it feels uncomfortable for to be texting all my friends too. (:

Anonymous wrote:
October 23, 2011 4:08 am

me too

chelsea wrote:
March 27, 2011 7:44 pm

HAVE YOU EVER SAID SOMETHING TO YOUR FRIEND THAT YOU SHOULDNT HAVE ( THAT YOU DIDNT MEAN TO)

tangy66 wrote:
May 4, 2011 5:32 pm

yes Now I feel so bad bcecause my best friend believed it

(Declined) wrote:
February 26, 2011 11:25 pm

well....yes ! but it was just small things that were forgotten , i know thats not good, but its not a big deal either!

Anonymous wrote:
January 26, 2012 7:08 pm

that doesnt mean you can go and hurt the person if i were you i would go and say you are sorry then go from there

horsebffl wrote:
November 29, 2010 2:35 pm

nope

camcou wrote:
November 29, 2010 2:35 pm

i promice i would go ask a boy out and i got scared and didn't , the person i promice ways mad at me

Anonymous wrote:
January 10, 2011 4:02 pm

OMg SAME hEre Girl

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