Telling Someone You Like Them
Crushing on someone can be a lot of fun. Sometimes you rearrange your whole schedule just to run into that person, you start dressing nicer, you tell your friends and you hope that the person likes you back. But telling someone you like them can be terrifying. What if they shoot you down? Laugh at you? Make fun of you?
Similar to a friend, a potential bf/gf should be someone you like to hang out with, someone you like to talk to and share your thoughts and ideas with, someone you have fun with, and someone who you can trust and rely on. The first step in starting a relationship is letting the other person know that you’re interested.
If you like someone:
- Find something that you have in common with the other person to talk with them about (i.e. a class in school, a sport, a TV show).
- Ask them if they would be interested in spending time with you (e.g. working on a school project together, eating your lunch together, or walking home together after school). If it’s hard to ask them face-to-face, ask in a note, through a friend, online or via text message.
- Build your friendship with them first and the rest will happen naturally.
Keep in mind:
- Always be respectful. Showing interest in someone means taking a huge risk. If they don’t want to hang out with you, respect their decision. If someone you’re not interested in shows an interest in you, don’t be mean or laugh at them. You may feel embarrassed, but the other person will be too.
- When you’re first getting to know someone, hanging out together with a group of friends can be a great way to spend some time together and to get to know one another.
- If you choose to text message someone to tell them you like them and/or ask them out, send one message and wait for a response. If you don’t get one, don’t repeatedly text the person over and over until they respond.
- Telling someone you like them or asking someone out is one of the hardest things to do. Getting shot down can be painful — but keep in mind that everyone experiences rejection at some point of time. You are definitely not alone! If you aren’t interested in someone, say so nicely — there is no need to publicly humiliate someone else.
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Ive known this guy like forever and we have this frenemy relationship. Ive liked him for a long time and this friday is a schooo dance how can i ask him without it being awkward? We havent talked since sept of 11
i realy like this guy but i dont know if he likes me.... how do i tell him i like him?
So I dated this guy and we were broken up then he moved on and so did I but I still liked him now I want him back and he's single because the other day he told me he missed me wht should I do !!!!:(
Well, why did you braek up with him? If he hurt you, you shouldn't go back, 'cause he could hurt you again. If it was for a "thought this wouldn't work" or "just weren't clicking", you could try again. Do what you feel is right.:)
I met this guy and we became really good friends. He told me that I can tell him anything and he'll understand, and that he can tell me anything because he trusts me <3.
But the one thing I hate about him is that he has a girlfriend, he talks about her all the time and says he is happy with her :/.
I told him that I liked him and he understood, but said not to get my hopes down because i'll never know what will happen. <-- Does that mean he's saying me and him might have a chance together if him and his girlfriend break up????
A man would rather be eaten alive than tell a girl he doesn't like her. And I'm sure he likes you. Enough to keep you waiting. For him. Until he's done with his current girlfriend. He likes you so much he doesn't mind if you whind away your days pining after him. Why are you settling for that?? Why are you okay with a man who isnt willing to jump at the chance to be with you? You deserve to be the first choice a man has, and the only choice... You DON'T need to settle for being this man's backup, second in line... Stop seeing him, stop telling him you like him, and go out and find a guy whose able to see and love you the way you deserve to be seen and loved. If he's not yours, he's still hers. And you deserve your own happy ending.
i would think so
Me and this guy started talking and he asked me who i liked so i told him that i kinda liked him soo he came out and told me that he liked me too. We started talking more and eventually hung out but right when we got really really close he told me he didn't like me and he liked someone else. It was my best friend. -__- FML.
now that is just harsh