Les conflits
Un conflit, c’est dur des fois. Quelle que soit la personne avec qui on est en brouille (amis, parents, partenaire, entraîneur, prof, etc.), un conflit peut nous affecter mentalement, physiquement, émotionnellement et socialement.
- Comporte-toi noblement et évite de tomber dans la méchanceté.
- Dis-toi que le conflit ne durera pas éternellement.
- Ne publicise pas le conflit : ne va pas retransmettre des textos à des personnes en dehors du conflit ou publier des conversations sur Internet.
- Tu n’as pas à sortir « gagnant »; le conflit ne se résoudra jamais si tu veux absolument gagner.
- Demande-toi si la personne avec qui tu es en conflit mérite que tu fasses des efforts.
- S’il s’agit de ton meilleur ami ou de ta meilleure amie ou de quelqu’un que tu estimes et que tu ne veux pas perdre, ça vaut peut-être le coup d’essayer de résoudre votre différend.
- Si tu es en conflit avec une personne dont tu n’es pas très proche ou qui ne joue pas un grand rôle dans ta vie, il vaut peut-être mieux de simplement abandonner et sortir du conflit.
- Offre à l’autre de discuter en privé (c’est-à-dire sans inviter le reste de l’école).
- Demande à l’autre personne de te dire exactement ce qui la dérange.
- Écoute l’autre personne calmement, sans l’interrompre pour faire valoir ta propre perspective, et laisse-lui l’occasion de se vider le cœur. Même si tu n’es pas d’accord avec ce qu’elle dit et que ses propos te mettent en colère, il est important de la laisser parler.
- Vois comment l’autre personne se sent et dis-lui que te n’es pas indifférent ou indifférente à ce qu’elle ressent.
- Demande-lui ensuite d’écouter calmement pendant que tu expliques ta version des choses et comment tu te sens. Dis-lui ce que tu aimerais et ce que tu es prêt ou prête à faire pour améliorer la situation.
- Voyez si vous pouvez en arriver à une sorte de vision commune des origines de votre conflit, de comment restaurer votre amitié et de ce qu’il faut faire si d’autres problèmes surviennent ultérieurement.
- S’il n’y a pas moyen de résoudre le conflit, dis-toi que tu as fait de ton mieux et que l’autre peut continuer de se chicaner tout seul s’il ou elle ne veut pas faire la paix. Le temps finit parfois par arranger les choses.
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When you non stop fighting with your friend doesnt mean their not your friends just take alil break from them and start hanging out with different people for awhile.. and then soon enough you guys will become friends again, but if not you guys should go for help, and everything will get better, ...... maybee?.
People that posts your text on facebook, or twitter, and get people to hate you,, well thats what my friend did to me, she got EVERYONE to hate me.. I wouldnt go that far with a fight,
i was walking down the rode and i seen my friend licking a ice cream and i asked for some but she was all liek no get away from me i hate u know i dont wanna be friends so i went home and cryed all nioght and stared to cut my wall all up and scream i lvoe my friend and she was the best thing that ever happend to me i dont know what went wrong
maybe she just needed her space.. "hate" is a strong word! so dont take it personaly! she was prob having a bad day :)
i dont think u should not be all stressed about it but u should talk to her mom or talk to her
look, ur friend might be going thru some hard times. approach her GENTLY and ask her wuts wrong
Wow, that would really hurt. It sounds like you were really upset. Sometimes friends can say things that are really hurtful. Have you told your friend how you felt when this happened? Sometimes friends need some space from each other to cool off. Has your friend ever done something like this before? Even in a healthy friendship, friends sometimes disagree or say things they do not mean, and then they make up. Making up is important after someone is hurt. It is difficult to repair the friendship if one person isn’t willing to make- up. It is important to feel good about yourself in a friendship. If you start feeling sad or hurt more often than you feel good, it might be time to take a break and spend some time with other friends who you feel better around.
Fighting with friends can be really upsetting and it is can be helpful to talk to an adult. Do you have a safe adult you can talk to when you are upset: at home or at school?
Me and my two friends were all cool at the beginning of the year. By October, my two friends always hung out and talked and they left me out. When I tried to make friendly conversation, they insulted me. So, one day I confronted them about it. I calmly told them "I don't like the way you've been treating me lately. You're leaving me out and I don't feel like were friends anymore." She completely freaked out and started yelling at me and insulting me.
It's March now, and we've been in a fight since November. She wants to be friends again, but I told her no. She mistreated me and I'm not going to put up with it. Reminds me a lot of the song 'Jar of Hearts' by Christina Perri.
i <3 that song, btw. maybe u should try again????
the same thing happended to me last year, they appoligized and we moved on in life, and after that nothing happend again , so i sugest you accept her appoligie.:)
sweet it happens to me too somthimes it sucks :(
it happens too me alot sometimes :(
i love that song
that is so sad
i luv that song to is makes me want to cry sometimes but i love it and i want to do that for the talent show
my friend and i sat side by side talking it out !
aw ever hawt;) jk im not a creep =D